It’s not really about having an honest answer and thereby feeling better as it is about having tools or steps you can take to improve your situation rather than being preoccupied with how bad it is or flinching away from it as a possibility.
Unattractive people have a much harder time finding romantic partners.
This is true! But that doesn’t mean it is impossible to find romantic partners. Similarly, what is attractive to most people is not necessarily attractive to everyone. And there are a lot of humans in the world! So what’s unattractive to most people might be attractive to several thousand people—which is a lot of potential romantic partners. The other convenient thing is these groups are much better indexed by Google than they used to be a few decades ago. So the thing you can do is Google! And date online, etc.
So yes, it is harder. And it’s frustrating when one group of people has something easier than you do. But easier for them doesn’t mean impossible for you. That’s kind of the idea of CBT. There are things you can do!
It’s not really about having an honest answer and thereby feeling better as it is about having tools or steps you can take to improve your situation rather than being preoccupied with how bad it is or flinching away from it as a possibility.
This is true! But that doesn’t mean it is impossible to find romantic partners. Similarly, what is attractive to most people is not necessarily attractive to everyone. And there are a lot of humans in the world! So what’s unattractive to most people might be attractive to several thousand people—which is a lot of potential romantic partners. The other convenient thing is these groups are much better indexed by Google than they used to be a few decades ago. So the thing you can do is Google! And date online, etc.
So yes, it is harder. And it’s frustrating when one group of people has something easier than you do. But easier for them doesn’t mean impossible for you. That’s kind of the idea of CBT. There are things you can do!