Invest in people proportionate to your expected return. Your prior on returns should be very low, most people are a waste of time and resources (Specifically for this particular example, your investment was your emotional reactance to things they do). Low but still positive, so you invest a tiny bit and watch what happens. If you actually get some returns great! Repeat with a slightly larger investment. Otherwise start with a new person.
Your anger is understandable, things are more frustrating when they are close to awesome but then fail in a stupid way than things that were never awesome. These “almost awesome” things give you a glimpse of something amazing before snatching it away. Even though our platonic awesome thing never really existed we still feel loss.
Unless the argument itself is the part you get returns from. I’ve long admitted that arguing on the internet is utterly pointless. But so is watching TV or playing video games, and this at least makes me smarter sometimes.
Invest in people proportionate to your expected return. Your prior on returns should be very low, most people are a waste of time and resources (Specifically for this particular example, your investment was your emotional reactance to things they do). Low but still positive, so you invest a tiny bit and watch what happens. If you actually get some returns great! Repeat with a slightly larger investment. Otherwise start with a new person.
Your anger is understandable, things are more frustrating when they are close to awesome but then fail in a stupid way than things that were never awesome. These “almost awesome” things give you a glimpse of something amazing before snatching it away. Even though our platonic awesome thing never really existed we still feel loss.
Unless the argument itself is the part you get returns from. I’ve long admitted that arguing on the internet is utterly pointless. But so is watching TV or playing video games, and this at least makes me smarter sometimes.