I think this post suffers from a lack of rigor regarding the limits of the advice. One limit is that, if you let your vibes steer you away from interpersonal interactions, then you’ll eliminate interactions that have higher-than-average upside potential.
In most cases, most people’s perceptions are similar to yours. (e.g. If you think that the guy who asked you out is weird, then most of the other women who he asked out probably think so, too.) Consequently, if you and everyone else in the same situation are steered by vibes, then your failures of judgement will be correlated. In other words, some interactions will be undervalued.
If you weren’t steered by vibes, then you you could have harvested that difference in value. To piggy-back off of the examples that Said Achmiz gave:
Business venture: the upside potential is pretty obvious here. You’d be the first to a land grab, you’ll get an exceptionally talented business partner, etc.
Dating: you’d get a man or woman who is superficially unattractive in some way (“bad vibe” traits) but is a great catch overall.
Confidant: you’d gain a friend—probably one who’s exceptionally loyal (due to being passed over by others) and might see the world very differently from you (correlated with their “bad vibes” traits)
When choosing whether to follow your vibes, remember that there is a Nash equilibrium. If everyone else follows their vibes, then your best option is to interrogate yours (as Said describes). If most people are ignoring their vibes, then your best option is to follow yours. Neither strategy is dominant.
I think this post suffers from a lack of rigor regarding the limits of the advice. One limit is that, if you let your vibes steer you away from interpersonal interactions, then you’ll eliminate interactions that have higher-than-average upside potential.
In most cases, most people’s perceptions are similar to yours. (e.g. If you think that the guy who asked you out is weird, then most of the other women who he asked out probably think so, too.) Consequently, if you and everyone else in the same situation are steered by vibes, then your failures of judgement will be correlated. In other words, some interactions will be undervalued.
If you weren’t steered by vibes, then you you could have harvested that difference in value. To piggy-back off of the examples that Said Achmiz gave:
Business venture: the upside potential is pretty obvious here. You’d be the first to a land grab, you’ll get an exceptionally talented business partner, etc.
Dating: you’d get a man or woman who is superficially unattractive in some way (“bad vibe” traits) but is a great catch overall.
Confidant: you’d gain a friend—probably one who’s exceptionally loyal (due to being passed over by others) and might see the world very differently from you (correlated with their “bad vibes” traits)
When choosing whether to follow your vibes, remember that there is a Nash equilibrium. If everyone else follows their vibes, then your best option is to interrogate yours (as Said describes). If most people are ignoring their vibes, then your best option is to follow yours. Neither strategy is dominant.