Agree with parts of this but on the whole this comment seems pretty extreme.
> This presumes that it’s OK to become a parent under such circumstances. As part of my solution, am I allowed to suggest that it might not be?
You realize tfr would be like .2 if people actually behaved like this? I know this is a little tangential but I feel like this instantly can be thrown out with reductio ad absurdum.
> Something is wrong if kids are constantly hitting each other. Strongly disagree. It is extremely normal and probably even beneficial for pre pubescent kids, especially boys, to get physical. Depends on the context of course, just slapping people in the face for no reason would imply something is wrong. ordinary pushing, grabbing, wrestling, toy conflict escalation, and sibling roughness are not by themselves evidence that anything wrong.
In general yes it seems to me you are way overindexing on your child being easy. Even an average kid will be way more problematic to many parents with your attitude and walk all over you.
You realize tfr would be like .2 if people actually behaved like this?
I don’t see that as a problem.
I mean, yes, people aren’t going to buy into it. But those same people aren’t going to listen to any “solution” I (or anybody here) come up with, so it’s actually no more unrealistic than anything else I could say.
Strongly disagree. It is extremely normal and probably even beneficial for pre pubescent kids, especially boys, to get physical.
“Every 5 minutes”? No, sorry. I was a prepubescent boy. It was a rare month in which I hit anybody or was hit by anybody. I’ve watched parks and day cares full of kids who were not hitting each other or even shoving each other. Wrestling as a game, perhaps.
Agree with parts of this but on the whole this comment seems pretty extreme.
> This presumes that it’s OK to become a parent under such circumstances. As part of my solution, am I allowed to suggest that it might not be?
You realize tfr would be like .2 if people actually behaved like this? I know this is a little tangential but I feel like this instantly can be thrown out with reductio ad absurdum.
> Something is wrong if kids are constantly hitting each other.
Strongly disagree. It is extremely normal and probably even beneficial for pre pubescent kids, especially boys, to get physical. Depends on the context of course, just slapping people in the face for no reason would imply something is wrong. ordinary pushing, grabbing, wrestling, toy conflict escalation, and sibling roughness are not by themselves evidence that anything wrong.
In general yes it seems to me you are way overindexing on your child being easy. Even an average kid will be way more problematic to many parents with your attitude and walk all over you.
I don’t see that as a problem.
I mean, yes, people aren’t going to buy into it. But those same people aren’t going to listen to any “solution” I (or anybody here) come up with, so it’s actually no more unrealistic than anything else I could say.
“Every 5 minutes”? No, sorry. I was a prepubescent boy. It was a rare month in which I hit anybody or was hit by anybody. I’ve watched parks and day cares full of kids who were not hitting each other or even shoving each other. Wrestling as a game, perhaps.
We’re taking about different ages here. Toddlers Vs 8 year olds.