I miss the trigger of my attempts at most TAPs too often, especially if these are triggers that naturally occur in emotionally heated situations. Even after mentally rehearsing them ten times initially and snapping my fingers when I notice the trigger in the moment.
What works better for me is a spaced repetition TAP: I have an Anki deck with Fibonacci spaced (re-)learning steps (2 days, 3, 5, 8). A sample card might be “Behavior: When did I last get triggered and forgot to take a deep breath and remind myself to not get triggered?” I answer “hard” if this behavior has occurred since the card was last shown and then take time to visualize the situation, add it to the back of the card with timestamp, and mentally rehearse my desired, corrected response to the triggering situation.
I limit this deck to one new card per day, and rehearse the card as part of my daily anki routine. So far I’ve fixed a variety of behaviors to the point that my partner and friends have commented on the changes they observed.
“I miss the trigger of my attempts at most TAPs too often, especially if these are triggers that naturally occur in emotionally heated situations” I have found it helpful on the margin but not a full solution visualize or flat out LARP specific plausible situations.
I miss the trigger of my attempts at most TAPs too often, especially if these are triggers that naturally occur in emotionally heated situations. Even after mentally rehearsing them ten times initially and snapping my fingers when I notice the trigger in the moment.
What works better for me is a spaced repetition TAP: I have an Anki deck with Fibonacci spaced (re-)learning steps (2 days, 3, 5, 8). A sample card might be “Behavior: When did I last get triggered and forgot to take a deep breath and remind myself to not get triggered?” I answer “hard” if this behavior has occurred since the card was last shown and then take time to visualize the situation, add it to the back of the card with timestamp, and mentally rehearse my desired, corrected response to the triggering situation.
I limit this deck to one new card per day, and rehearse the card as part of my daily anki routine. So far I’ve fixed a variety of behaviors to the point that my partner and friends have commented on the changes they observed.
“I miss the trigger of my attempts at most TAPs too often, especially if these are triggers that naturally occur in emotionally heated situations”
I have found it helpful on the margin but not a full solution visualize or flat out LARP specific plausible situations.