they rape each other and intentionally put their children through painful experiences
This is just plain wrong on both counts. The non-consensual initiation of sex becoming equated to non-consensual initiation of conversation is very reasonably explained and investigated elsewhere on LW. (I still suspect that it would work a little poorly, and could be a naive policy.) Humans are probably more careful then now about letting their children bump their knees in all sorts of ways. I imagine their upbringing to be very awesome indeed, more fun and less painful then today, and totally worth it.
This is just plain wrong on both counts. The non-consensual initiation of sex becoming equated to non-consensual initiation of conversation is very reasonably explained and investigated elsewhere on LW. (I still suspect that it would work a little poorly, and could be a naive policy.) Humans are probably more careful then now about letting their children bump their knees in all sorts of ways. I imagine their upbringing to be very awesome indeed, more fun and less painful then today, and totally worth it.
Where?
What do you base this on?
See the links in my post and the post itself.
Intuition, and my general estimate about that society being more loving in all personal contexts than ours.