It’s pretty easy to see why the Victorians were wrong. The social norms (especially middle class) cherished female chastity, since chastity is an important virtue for monogamous societies. This is because men are more reluctant to form long-term mating commitments to women with a reputation for strong sex desire (this increases paternal uncertainty). So over centuries, the parochial assumption that women were genuinely chaste would have become common among men. Now that female chastity is out, marriage rates are declining, and we seem to be evolving to a more “forager” sexual style (this trend is currently incomplete).
I’ve also read anti-porn radical feminists who argue that women only pretend to accept male use of porn (or bondage/discipline in the bedroom) to seem “cool”, when really they find it disgusting/evil.
I’ve also seen “women can’t enjoy Penis-in-Vagina sex and any who believe they do are sufferring from Trauma Bonding” but only among people who, as far as I can tell, identify as anti-third wave feminists first, and radical feminists second.
It’s pretty easy to see why the Victorians were wrong. The social norms (especially middle class) cherished female chastity, since chastity is an important virtue for monogamous societies. This is because men are more reluctant to form long-term mating commitments to women with a reputation for strong sex desire (this increases paternal uncertainty). So over centuries, the parochial assumption that women were genuinely chaste would have become common among men. Now that female chastity is out, marriage rates are declining, and we seem to be evolving to a more “forager” sexual style (this trend is currently incomplete).
I’ve also read anti-porn radical feminists who argue that women only pretend to accept male use of porn (or bondage/discipline in the bedroom) to seem “cool”, when really they find it disgusting/evil.
I’ve also seen “women can’t enjoy Penis-in-Vagina sex and any who believe they do are sufferring from Trauma Bonding” but only among people who, as far as I can tell, identify as anti-third wave feminists first, and radical feminists second.