I think my default response when I learn about [trait X] is almost the opposite of how it is described in the post, at least if I learn that someone I know has it.
My mind reflexively tries to explain how [trait X] is not that bad, or good in the certain context. I have had to force myself to not automatically defend it in my head. I might signal (consciously or unconsciously) dislike for the trait in general, but not when I am confronted with someone I know having it. There are probably exceptions to this though, maybe for more extreme traits. I hope I wouldn’t automatically try do internally defend rape for example, even if it was reflexive and only for one or two seconds.
I just wanted to note that people like me exist too, and in certain cultures it might be fairly common (though I’m just speculating here).
Thanks for pointing that out. For me it’s not so extreme as you describe it, but it definitely happens to me often that when I hear something like that, a hypothesis about why it’s acceptable/good also jumps into my head.
I think my default response when I learn about [trait X] is almost the opposite of how it is described in the post, at least if I learn that someone I know has it.
My mind reflexively tries to explain how [trait X] is not that bad, or good in the certain context. I have had to force myself to not automatically defend it in my head. I might signal (consciously or unconsciously) dislike for the trait in general, but not when I am confronted with someone I know having it. There are probably exceptions to this though, maybe for more extreme traits. I hope I wouldn’t automatically try do internally defend rape for example, even if it was reflexive and only for one or two seconds.
I just wanted to note that people like me exist too, and in certain cultures it might be fairly common (though I’m just speculating here).
Thanks for pointing that out. For me it’s not so extreme as you describe it, but it definitely happens to me often that when I hear something like that, a hypothesis about why it’s acceptable/good also jumps into my head.