I agree with the point in your first sentence, but I’m not sure I follow what your advice is in the second sentence.
Are you suggesting that my criticism comes from having rational women to date, whereas Chris (at the time of the anecdote) did not, and so was forced to date an irrational woman, for which I was criticising him?
Those are three wrong things, it seems to me:
I don’t find it to be the case that rational women occur in abundance in my dating pool;
No one (presumably) forced Chris to date the young lady in question;
I wasn’t criticising him for his dating choices; if I was criticising anything, it was his advice that we accept such behavior in our partners / friends, and expressing the view that I, personally, would not accept such behavior.
That surprises you? Do you think rational women wouldn’t want harems?
Scott tells us that polyamory seems like a suboptimal way to get sex, and I assume this holds true even for women—technically. But sex is not fungible.
...What?! You’re surprised that rational people who are in demand can get what they want?
Depending on what “what they want” is, yeah, I might be surprised.
I mean, clarify for me, what are we talking about here? “Polyamory is relatively common in rational circles, and poly relationships in said circles often/sometimes/commonly consist of (i.e., are circumscribed by) one woman who is dating several men”?
Harem is a bit misleading as it implies dominance and ease. Polyamory presumably requires work to keep the people around you and to prevent drama, and that situation doesn’t seem obviously preferable.
I agree with the point in your first sentence, but I’m not sure I follow what your advice is in the second sentence.
Are you suggesting that my criticism comes from having rational women to date, whereas Chris (at the time of the anecdote) did not, and so was forced to date an irrational woman, for which I was criticising him?
Those are three wrong things, it seems to me:
I don’t find it to be the case that rational women occur in abundance in my dating pool;
No one (presumably) forced Chris to date the young lady in question;
I wasn’t criticising him for his dating choices; if I was criticising anything, it was his advice that we accept such behavior in our partners / friends, and expressing the view that I, personally, would not accept such behavior.
P.S.
Really?
That surprises you? Do you think rational women wouldn’t want harems?
Scott tells us that polyamory seems like a suboptimal way to get sex, and I assume this holds true even for women—technically. But sex is not fungible.
Um… sure, that surprises me a bit. Also that they have the harems, even given wanting them.
I don’t really know what you are saying in your second paragraph. Please explain?
...What?! You’re surprised that rational people who are in demand can get what they want?
I may try to explain the second part later, but in my current condition I don’t get your confusion.
Depending on what “what they want” is, yeah, I might be surprised.
I mean, clarify for me, what are we talking about here? “Polyamory is relatively common in rational circles, and poly relationships in said circles often/sometimes/commonly consist of (i.e., are circumscribed by) one woman who is dating several men”?
Harem is a bit misleading as it implies dominance and ease. Polyamory presumably requires work to keep the people around you and to prevent drama, and that situation doesn’t seem obviously preferable.