My experience is more like “real honesty, in or out of a relationship, only works with the upper echelon of CFAR style rationalists” though admittedly exposure to the naked, sharp gears of my own intellect may have more Lovecraftian results than it would in the population average.
I think the set of women you can be honest with in a relationship is much larger than the set of women who are full on CFAR style rationalists.
My experience is more like “real honesty, in or out of a relationship, only works with the upper echelon of CFAR style rationalists” though admittedly exposure to the naked, sharp gears of my own intellect may have more Lovecraftian results than it would in the population average.
Honest about carefully selected safe topics? Or about the weird ones?