This seems potentially useful if you find yourself regularly getting told you are manipulative or rude, but if not, I don’t see the value proposition.
I’m also skeptical general, universal, rules like this exist for everyone, as well as “dissonance” being bad in every circumstance for everyone.
As a concrete example, sometimes my friends will tell me they are stupid or inadequate, and also sometimes I know that’s dumb & stupid, so I tell them. This no doubt causes dissonance but a good kind because I know those people well enough to know they just aren’t thinking clearly (and if they were, my confident assertions would not much change their trajectory).
Less concretely, many people thrive in direct confrontation, and NVC seems opposed to that.
This seems potentially useful if you find yourself regularly getting told you are manipulative or rude, but if not, I don’t see the value proposition.
I’m also skeptical general, universal, rules like this exist for everyone, as well as “dissonance” being bad in every circumstance for everyone.
As a concrete example, sometimes my friends will tell me they are stupid or inadequate, and also sometimes I know that’s dumb & stupid, so I tell them. This no doubt causes dissonance but a good kind because I know those people well enough to know they just aren’t thinking clearly (and if they were, my confident assertions would not much change their trajectory).
Less concretely, many people thrive in direct confrontation, and NVC seems opposed to that.