Unless I badly misunderstood, what John is saying is that to be kind to people he needs to suspend his disbelief that they are not moral agents, as in, his default view is that people are capable of realizing they could be better, and trying to be. It is this belief in peoples “ability to be good” that he needs to suspend in order to be kind and friendly with them. If the suspension of this disbelief breaks and he starts to believe that it is within peoples power to be better than they are, then they are choosing not to be, which is pretty awful and strains his ability to get along with them.
I think he is then saying that empathizing with people is likely to break this suspense of disbelief leading to harsh judgment. This imo is something johnswentworth has stated as an observation of johnswentworth’s mind. I don’t know if he meant to imply that these judgements are always correct. I suspect not.
Unless I badly misunderstood, what John is saying is that to be kind to people he needs to suspend his disbelief that they are not moral agents, as in, his default view is that people are capable of realizing they could be better, and trying to be. It is this belief in peoples “ability to be good” that he needs to suspend in order to be kind and friendly with them. If the suspension of this disbelief breaks and he starts to believe that it is within peoples power to be better than they are, then they are choosing not to be, which is pretty awful and strains his ability to get along with them.
I think he is then saying that empathizing with people is likely to break this suspense of disbelief leading to harsh judgment. This imo is something johnswentworth has stated as an observation of johnswentworth’s mind. I don’t know if he meant to imply that these judgements are always correct. I suspect not.