Well, one way to subvert this would be to also arrange to get praise for my successes, and make the praise-for-success noticably more rewarding than the criticism-for-failure.
True. Note that failing is massively easier than succeeding. You don’t really have to plan for it. Perhaps the problem doesn’t arise if you feel worse for making the mistake than you feel good about receiving criticism for it. However, I strongly suspect we mostly feel bad about our mistakes precisely because of the social context. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t want to feel good about my mistakes.
Are you deliberately implying a normative statement about how sensitive a person ought to be to criticism here, or is it accidental?
The normativity of such a statement depends on the values of the person in question. If those values are a known factor, I do believe there is an optimal range of sensitivity one should try to gauge.
The normativity of such a statement depends on the values of the person in question. If those values are a known factor, I do believe there is an optimal range of sensitivity one should try to gauge.
Ah. So “people who are oversensitive,” here, means people who are more sensitive to criticism than is optimal according to their own values? Fair enough… thanks for clarifying that.
Exactly. Admittedly there are a lot of people I would like to have different sensitivities to criticism than they have or even want to have, like psychopaths for example. Even that of course doesn’t imply any universal normativity.
True. Note that failing is massively easier than succeeding. You don’t really have to plan for it. Perhaps the problem doesn’t arise if you feel worse for making the mistake than you feel good about receiving criticism for it. However, I strongly suspect we mostly feel bad about our mistakes precisely because of the social context. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t want to feel good about my mistakes.
The normativity of such a statement depends on the values of the person in question. If those values are a known factor, I do believe there is an optimal range of sensitivity one should try to gauge.
Ah. So “people who are oversensitive,” here, means people who are more sensitive to criticism than is optimal according to their own values? Fair enough… thanks for clarifying that.
Exactly. Admittedly there are a lot of people I would like to have different sensitivities to criticism than they have or even want to have, like psychopaths for example. Even that of course doesn’t imply any universal normativity.