I doubt tabooing the term “valid” would have helped. In my first reply to wedrifid I gave an explicit definition, a link to said definition (which includes citations), and an example. What more could you ask for?
It has generally been my experience, when a term proves problematic in discussion, that providing my definition for that term doesn’t work as well as either (a) agreeing to use the other person’s definition, when I understand it well enough to do so, or (b) not using the term.
I doubt tabooing the term “valid” would have helped. In my first reply to wedrifid I gave an explicit definition, a link to said definition (which includes citations), and an example. What more could you ask for?
It has generally been my experience, when a term proves problematic in discussion, that providing my definition for that term doesn’t work as well as either (a) agreeing to use the other person’s definition, when I understand it well enough to do so, or (b) not using the term.
Is your experience different?
And please see here for the most relevant reply (to a comment declaring an equivalent definition.)