This is taking the unfortunate/entitled/nice/beta/shibboleth-of-your-choice males’ complaint too far at face value—i.e., that they are sexually unsuccessful on account of being kind and prosocial.
It is doing no such thing. Make no mistake—I don’t conflate altruism with approval seeking niceness and I recommend “quit being a pussy” as a far more practical bite of self talk for people in the category you describe to use than the “women only like jerks” message; I’m clearly not rejecting the analogy because I’m supporting a sob story. No, what I am doing is rejecting one soldier that happens to be on the opposite extreme to the one above. Because it is a false analogy.
But they’re not getting any approval for this
I don’t give any approval for this either, but I don’t do it out of judgement or blame. I don’t give approval or sympathy because that would be counterproductive to their own goals.
Whether the men in this analogy are socially encouraged in their behavior has very little to do with whether women perceive them as pleasant, and is only relevant if you’re treating your own arguments as soldiers; you, not Scott, were the one who chose to turn an attempt at providing information into a social fight.
It is doing no such thing. Make no mistake—I don’t conflate altruism with approval seeking niceness and I recommend “quit being a pussy” as a far more practical bite of self talk for people in the category you describe to use than the “women only like jerks” message; I’m clearly not rejecting the analogy because I’m supporting a sob story. No, what I am doing is rejecting one soldier that happens to be on the opposite extreme to the one above. Because it is a false analogy.
I don’t give any approval for this either, but I don’t do it out of judgement or blame. I don’t give approval or sympathy because that would be counterproductive to their own goals.
Whether the men in this analogy are socially encouraged in their behavior has very little to do with whether women perceive them as pleasant, and is only relevant if you’re treating your own arguments as soldiers; you, not Scott, were the one who chose to turn an attempt at providing information into a social fight.