If another data point helps, I basically agree with you… if someone told me that what I’d said made them want to hit me, I’d consider it rude, possibly funny (depending on context), and not significantly changing my estimate that they would actually hit me.
If another data point helps, I basically agree with you… if someone told me that what I’d said made them want to hit me, I’d consider it rude, possibly funny (depending on context), and not significantly changing my estimate that they would actually hit me.
What sort of thing would change your estimate of whether someone would actually hit you?
Hitting me.
Hitting others.
Demonstrating poor impulse control in general.
Physically intimidating me (e.g., looming up in my personal space).
In general, someone using their words increases my estimate that they will continue using their words.