Being able to delicately bring up certain topics with close friends after a few drinks is different from being able to bring them in your public life. But I would also suspect that Less Wrong posters, contrarians in general and the less neurotypical among us are likely to have difficulty approaching taboo topics with tact. I would subsequently expect those with better social skills (perhaps like yourself) to feel like such topics aren’t as taboo as other’s think they are.
I agree that social skills would help a lot in stating taboo opinions safely. On the other hand, social skills consist in some measure of not stating taboo opinions, and in general, opinions your listeners won’t like.
I’m hardly a social genius. I haven’t kept any childhood friends, and I alternate between making large numbers of friends and months of self-imposed isolation. I read math textbooks at bars for entertainment.
I think most people could do better than me.
At the same time, I’m a socialist atheist living in Tennessee, and I have a pretty thick skin when it comes to sensitive topics. I’ll admit the possibility that my disposition could help to make my experiences atypical. But I’ve seen people have the “typical” experience, and I can usually instantly tell when they’ve failed and how they could have done better.
It’s less about being able to make a lot of friends or forcing oneself to be social and much more about being able to calibrate how you’re coming off to others and head misperceptions off at the pass.
Two traits sometimes found in AS individuals are mind-blindness (the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and alexithymia (the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in oneself or others), which reduce the ability to be empathetically attuned to others.[32][33] Alexithymia in AS functions as an independent variable relying on different neural networks than those implicated in theory of mind.[32][33] In fact, lack of Theory of Mind in AS may be a result of a lack of information available to the mind due to the operation of the alexithymic deficit.[32][33
Edit: Btw, you aren’t in eastern Tennessee by chance are you?
It’s a beautiful, beautiful place. I used to drive through it fairly often in a big, ungainly truck, and it always seemed to be storming. Probably my stare-offs with imminent destruction made it even prettier.
Being able to delicately bring up certain topics with close friends after a few drinks is different from being able to bring them in your public life. But I would also suspect that Less Wrong posters, contrarians in general and the less neurotypical among us are likely to have difficulty approaching taboo topics with tact. I would subsequently expect those with better social skills (perhaps like yourself) to feel like such topics aren’t as taboo as other’s think they are.
I agree that social skills would help a lot in stating taboo opinions safely. On the other hand, social skills consist in some measure of not stating taboo opinions, and in general, opinions your listeners won’t like.
I’m hardly a social genius. I haven’t kept any childhood friends, and I alternate between making large numbers of friends and months of self-imposed isolation. I read math textbooks at bars for entertainment.
I think most people could do better than me.
At the same time, I’m a socialist atheist living in Tennessee, and I have a pretty thick skin when it comes to sensitive topics. I’ll admit the possibility that my disposition could help to make my experiences atypical. But I’ve seen people have the “typical” experience, and I can usually instantly tell when they’ve failed and how they could have done better.
It’s less about being able to make a lot of friends or forcing oneself to be social and much more about being able to calibrate how you’re coming off to others and head misperceptions off at the pass.
Quoting from this wikipedia article on autism spectrum disorders.
Edit: Btw, you aren’t in eastern Tennessee by chance are you?
I am, near Knoxville.
Neat, I’m likely moving to Asheville in the next few months.
It’s a beautiful, beautiful place. I used to drive through it fairly often in a big, ungainly truck, and it always seemed to be storming. Probably my stare-offs with imminent destruction made it even prettier.