No, Tim is correct and you are not about what I was trying to say. I’m not sure how to explain this differently …
It isn’t that “you by definition should not say the thing that offended them” — rather, that it is bootless to get in arguments about whether they should be offended. Communication is a two-way street; it’s up to the speaker to find out whether the words they are using actually have the intended effect on the listener. If I am consistently misunderstood, I could conclude that I’m surrounded by morons — or that I need to communicate differently.
No, Tim is correct and you are not about what I was trying to say. I’m not sure how to explain this differently …
It isn’t that “you by definition should not say the thing that offended them” — rather, that it is bootless to get in arguments about whether they should be offended. Communication is a two-way street; it’s up to the speaker to find out whether the words they are using actually have the intended effect on the listener. If I am consistently misunderstood, I could conclude that I’m surrounded by morons — or that I need to communicate differently.