I thought I started out fine. I’m not trying to kick shit up. The other person said “That you don’t know other big numbers?” so I responded with the same tone.
It appears that you took christiankl’s comment to be an inflammatory tone. C could have said better things, and that’s up to him to be better in the future too.
Ask a side point—this is how a traditional flame war starts.
“There’s no other number comparable to it.” (hyperbole) ”What is this supposed to mean? That you don’t know other big numbers?” (challenge) ”Oh come on.” (objection)
A shortcut to discussion here is that it has very little of the hyperbole on either side. He might be giving you shit for the hyperbole but he didn’t escalate where,
“Or maybe I was under the false assumption that the people wanted to mitigate the biases and in reality they just want to learn about them.” Is escalating
Careful now. If you just try to kick up shit people will start ignoring you.
Try: “I am confused because...”
I thought I started out fine. I’m not trying to kick shit up. The other person said “That you don’t know other big numbers?” so I responded with the same tone.
Isn’t mitigating biases change?
It appears that you took christiankl’s comment to be an inflammatory tone. C could have said better things, and that’s up to him to be better in the future too.
Ask a side point—this is how a traditional flame war starts.
“There’s no other number comparable to it.” (hyperbole)
”What is this supposed to mean? That you don’t know other big numbers?” (challenge)
”Oh come on.” (objection)
A shortcut to discussion here is that it has very little of the hyperbole on either side. He might be giving you shit for the hyperbole but he didn’t escalate where,
“Or maybe I was under the false assumption that the people wanted to mitigate the biases and in reality they just want to learn about them.”
Is escalating
Very true. Thanks for catching me. I need to work on my communication skills.
Zarm—slightly less wrong already!