It’s a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren’t willing to relax around other people and don’t consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you’re not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.
I can’t drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. “Come on, just one shot is fine...”
Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That’s a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.
Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixes_and_sevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don’t mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you’re drunk (or so I’ve heard).
It’s a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren’t willing to relax around other people and don’t consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you’re not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.
I can’t drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. “Come on, just one shot is fine...”
Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That’s a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.
Or maybe they think that your non-drinking is not a value of yours, but a value of another group that you are choosing over theirs.
Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixes_and_sevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don’t mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you’re drunk (or so I’ve heard).