The difference between getting what you want and sorting out a topic in the long term is also about social norms and habits of thought. It’s often easier to get what you want by asking, but then you’ll only get what you want and maybe become less effective at changing the underlying reasoning that caused you to want this thing or prevented others from giving it to you.
I worry that if I’m being a little bit more specific, I’m aligning with the norm of following directions rather than own understanding, shifting priority away from developing this understanding in myself and others. Of course any advice has an equal and opposite counteradvice, but my guess is that the popular inclination is to treat the symptoms.
The difference between getting what you want and sorting out a topic in the long term is also about social norms and habits of thought. It’s often easier to get what you want by asking, but then you’ll only get what you want and maybe become less effective at changing the underlying reasoning that caused you to want this thing or prevented others from giving it to you.
I worry that if I’m being a little bit more specific, I’m aligning with the norm of following directions rather than own understanding, shifting priority away from developing this understanding in myself and others. Of course any advice has an equal and opposite counteradvice, but my guess is that the popular inclination is to treat the symptoms.