I had something a set of mundane cases in mind. My post was just meant to point out that discerning these sorts of situations is not something we use a set of rules or criteria for (at least no fixed set we could usefully enumerate), but most people are socially competant enough to tell the difference.
I agree that most people who share what you’re calling “social competence” within a given culture share a set of rules that determine acceptable utterances in that culture, and that those rules are difficult to enumerate.
I had something a set of mundane cases in mind. My post was just meant to point out that discerning these sorts of situations is not something we use a set of rules or criteria for (at least no fixed set we could usefully enumerate), but most people are socially competant enough to tell the difference.
I agree that most people who share what you’re calling “social competence” within a given culture share a set of rules that determine acceptable utterances in that culture, and that those rules are difficult to enumerate.