I think I’ve broken the habit, but I used to apologize for things which were clearly the other person’s fault and as far as I can tell, my motivation was a strong feeling that an apology was supposed to happen, and if the other person didn’t supply it, I would.
This was a fairly strong and very fast reflex.
It seems plausible that it was the result of niceness training done a little too young or unthinkingly.
I think I’ve broken the habit, but I used to apologize for things which were clearly the other person’s fault and as far as I can tell, my motivation was a strong feeling that an apology was supposed to happen, and if the other person didn’t supply it, I would.
This was a fairly strong and very fast reflex.
It seems plausible that it was the result of niceness training done a little too young or unthinkingly.