My experiences with this sort of thing have been resolved using brute force. When my logic and long term planning conflicts with some inner module that ‘believes something different’, I can’t ignore the conflict. Ever. There is no putting it off to the side, there is no “I’ll think about it later”. Think about it, and beat on it, until you resolve it. Every time. Eventually, those spurious pieces of your head will stop fighting so hard.
It takes effort, and I’m not talking about small amounts of effort. There’s something painful there you’re shying away from, some conflict you’re avoiding, something too painful or hard to face. Facing it down is what it will take to fix the problem, and that’s that—you’re not going to get off easy, you’re not going find an easy out or a magical fix. You’re going to have to work, hard, to change the way your head works, and it is going to be extremely uncomfortable.
Don’t just be prepared for it to be difficult—be prepared for it to be as difficult as running a five minute mile, as difficult as bench pressing twice your body weight, as difficult as staying awake for five days straight without drugs or help. Be prepared for it to be Hard, with a capital H, one of the five most difficult things you’ve ever done in your life. That’s the barrier you need to break through.
But as hard as it is, it’s entirely doable. It’s not magic. There are fast ways to do it (brute force), and not so fast ways to do it (easing into it.) Personally, I prefer the fast, hard way whenever possible, because it’s less work overall. The easier ways have other drawbacks, such as falling into the trap of making continuous minor improvements that never actually solve the problem or bring you closer to a solution.
My experiences with this sort of thing have been resolved using brute force. When my logic and long term planning conflicts with some inner module that ‘believes something different’, I can’t ignore the conflict. Ever. There is no putting it off to the side, there is no “I’ll think about it later”. Think about it, and beat on it, until you resolve it. Every time. Eventually, those spurious pieces of your head will stop fighting so hard.
It takes effort, and I’m not talking about small amounts of effort. There’s something painful there you’re shying away from, some conflict you’re avoiding, something too painful or hard to face. Facing it down is what it will take to fix the problem, and that’s that—you’re not going to get off easy, you’re not going find an easy out or a magical fix. You’re going to have to work, hard, to change the way your head works, and it is going to be extremely uncomfortable.
Don’t just be prepared for it to be difficult—be prepared for it to be as difficult as running a five minute mile, as difficult as bench pressing twice your body weight, as difficult as staying awake for five days straight without drugs or help. Be prepared for it to be Hard, with a capital H, one of the five most difficult things you’ve ever done in your life. That’s the barrier you need to break through.
But as hard as it is, it’s entirely doable. It’s not magic. There are fast ways to do it (brute force), and not so fast ways to do it (easing into it.) Personally, I prefer the fast, hard way whenever possible, because it’s less work overall. The easier ways have other drawbacks, such as falling into the trap of making continuous minor improvements that never actually solve the problem or bring you closer to a solution.
Good luck!
Would you be willing to post an example of how you resolved something?