Yeah, it’s important to find ways to do that stuff. Every community I’ve visited where “ad hominem” — which they take to mean never addressing the people here, their patterns of behavior or their psychologies — is strictly enforced, has been deeply cursed.
If you can’t ever psychologize each other, then you aren’t a community. These things are literally incompatible. A community is a place where people know each other and care about each other, and care about the community as a whole. When people know each other, they notice let’s say opportunities for personal improvement in each other and if they care about each other then they will point those out, and if they care about the community as a whole they will often have to do it publicly.
Yeah, it’s important to find ways to do that stuff. Every community I’ve visited where “ad hominem” — which they take to mean never addressing the people here, their patterns of behavior or their psychologies — is strictly enforced, has been deeply cursed.
If you can’t ever psychologize each other, then you aren’t a community. These things are literally incompatible. A community is a place where people know each other and care about each other, and care about the community as a whole. When people know each other, they notice let’s say opportunities for personal improvement in each other and if they care about each other then they will point those out, and if they care about the community as a whole they will often have to do it publicly.