‘Weirdness’ is not about being other from the group, it is about causing the ingroup pain, which happens to correlate to being distinct from the ingroup (weird). We should call them ingroup-pain-points.
Being loudly vegan is spending ingroup-pain-points, because being in front of someone’s face and criticising their behaviour causes them pain. Serving your friends tasty vegan food does not cause them pain and therefore incurs no ingroup-pain-points.
There is a third class of ingroup pain point that i will call ‘cultural pain point’. My working definition of ‘culture’ is ‘suboptimal behaviours that signal ingroup membership’. If you refuse to partake in suboptimal behavior, this does not cause you pain, but since you are now in a better position than others in the ingroup, you have now caused them pain. This is why you can be vilified for being vegan in certain ‘cultures’: you are being more optimal (healthier) relative to other people in a way that is (implicitly or explicitly) identified as a signalling-suboptimal-behaviour.
‘Weirdness’ is not about being other from the group, it is about causing the ingroup pain, which happens to correlate to being distinct from the ingroup (weird). We should call them ingroup-pain-points.
Being loudly vegan is spending ingroup-pain-points, because being in front of someone’s face and criticising their behaviour causes them pain. Serving your friends tasty vegan food does not cause them pain and therefore incurs no ingroup-pain-points.
There is a third class of ingroup pain point that i will call ‘cultural pain point’. My working definition of ‘culture’ is ‘suboptimal behaviours that signal ingroup membership’. If you refuse to partake in suboptimal behavior, this does not cause you pain, but since you are now in a better position than others in the ingroup, you have now caused them pain. This is why you can be vilified for being vegan in certain ‘cultures’: you are being more optimal (healthier) relative to other people in a way that is (implicitly or explicitly) identified as a signalling-suboptimal-behaviour.
I’d say weirdness is about not being predictable
Perhaps along some generalized conformity axis—being perceived as a potential risk to the social order.
Another consequence of this is that inviting your friend to zendo is not weird, but inviting all your friends publically to zendo is.