I’m probably a very weird person, even if I do live a very standard stay-at-home-mother life. At least in rationalist circles, I seem to use up all my weirdness points just by being a stay-at-home mother, fearing G-d to the point of not spelling it out, and being a biblical literalist. And yet, I’m here.
The real problem is meta-awareness—thinking about yourself too much. If you’re focused on others instead of monitoring your own status, it matters less. I wouldn’t say I’m the most socially normal person—I lean more, um, socially experimental—but I do care about how other people feel. If someone is genuinely uncomfortable and I can adjust without triggering a motte-and-bailey about my own values, I will. But if there’s nothing I can reasonably do to change the situation, I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing.
As for food, I don’t pretend to be an exceptional cook. But if I have a guest who’s gluten-free or vegan, I’ll do my best to accommodate them. I also have chickens in my own yard, and I think they’re very well cared for. So at least for anyone concerned about animal rights, don’t worry, my chickens have a high quality of life.
I’m probably a very weird person, even if I do live a very standard stay-at-home-mother life. At least in rationalist circles, I seem to use up all my weirdness points just by being a stay-at-home mother, fearing G-d to the point of not spelling it out, and being a biblical literalist. And yet, I’m here.
The real problem is meta-awareness—thinking about yourself too much. If you’re focused on others instead of monitoring your own status, it matters less. I wouldn’t say I’m the most socially normal person—I lean more, um, socially experimental—but I do care about how other people feel. If someone is genuinely uncomfortable and I can adjust without triggering a motte-and-bailey about my own values, I will. But if there’s nothing I can reasonably do to change the situation, I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing.
As for food, I don’t pretend to be an exceptional cook. But if I have a guest who’s gluten-free or vegan, I’ll do my best to accommodate them. I also have chickens in my own yard, and I think they’re very well cared for. So at least for anyone concerned about animal rights, don’t worry, my chickens have a high quality of life.