A little bit. But the most important aspects for attraction are the energy and feelings you transmit. I can list so many situations of ugly or poor bad dressed guys dating nice ladies (both at uni and outside).
Also, if you work on your appearance too much you may end up with false positives that waste your time, costing you on the long run; some people focus on status (be partner’s looks/money/position/etc...) and if you signal that you might not end up in a nice relationship.
In the long term you need to focus on values, direction in life, and self-confidence. Hitting the gym, having basic grooms is important, but just keep good health and good manners.
In my opinion.
P.S.
I think by the end of the day dating is a bit random.
During uni I had lots of pimples on my face, low self-confidence, but somehow I was attracting beautiful ladies that my friends, well-dressed and behaved, did not.
I heard of normal people having just a high-school degree with PhD girlfriends.
etc....
P.P.S.
Another thing. Focus one person by one person. You really need to be present in the situation. I heard so many people talking about how dating multiple ladies improve relaxation and confidence. But here is the thing. You, and the lady, need to be present in the moment. Like, there is no one else on Earth. Basic steps.
P.P.P.S.
Last thought. In the past, I had ladies rejecting me and changing their minds some time after. So, if you get rejected embrace it and have courage :)
P.P.P.P.S.
If you really have trouble/want alternative ways of meeting people, getting introduced is one of the best ways actually. So, through friends of friends/acquaintances, hobby groups.
You could also use Apps, I have several friends that met their girlfriends there, and the general advice is to show your activities. But I really think real life is the best and most organic way for finding a lady, statistically speaking.
This aligns fairly well with my current model. While I don’t worry much about how I appear, I do care about my health (hence why I’m reasonably fit), and I have high self-esteem which I think translates to some confidence-flavored energy.
A little bit. But the most important aspects for attraction are the energy and feelings you transmit. I can list so many situations of ugly or poor bad dressed guys dating nice ladies (both at uni and outside).
Also, if you work on your appearance too much you may end up with false positives that waste your time, costing you on the long run; some people focus on status (be partner’s looks/money/position/etc...) and if you signal that you might not end up in a nice relationship.
In the long term you need to focus on values, direction in life, and self-confidence. Hitting the gym, having basic grooms is important, but just keep good health and good manners.
In my opinion.
P.S.
I think by the end of the day dating is a bit random.
During uni I had lots of pimples on my face, low self-confidence, but somehow I was attracting beautiful ladies that my friends, well-dressed and behaved, did not.
I heard of normal people having just a high-school degree with PhD girlfriends.
etc....
P.P.S.
Another thing. Focus one person by one person. You really need to be present in the situation. I heard so many people talking about how dating multiple ladies improve relaxation and confidence. But here is the thing. You, and the lady, need to be present in the moment. Like, there is no one else on Earth. Basic steps.
P.P.P.S.
Last thought. In the past, I had ladies rejecting me and changing their minds some time after. So, if you get rejected embrace it and have courage :)
P.P.P.P.S.
If you really have trouble/want alternative ways of meeting people, getting introduced is one of the best ways actually. So, through friends of friends/acquaintances, hobby groups.
You could also use Apps, I have several friends that met their girlfriends there, and the general advice is to show your activities. But I really think real life is the best and most organic way for finding a lady, statistically speaking.
This aligns fairly well with my current model. While I don’t worry much about how I appear, I do care about my health (hence why I’m reasonably fit), and I have high self-esteem which I think translates to some confidence-flavored energy.