Hmm, it seems maybe relevant that I don’t think of my various skill-acquiring periods in the past as about “success”? Or maybe that the thing my brain parses internally as success isn’t very defined by what society considers to be winning. When I moved from ICU nursing to operations work, it did involve going from somewhere I was acknowledged by my colleagues to be pretty good at and where I felt a lot of mastery, to somewhere where I was much more often making mistakes and getting criticism for them, and this was sometimes frustrating and hard. Still, my overall sense was still one where learning to be a good nurse gave me a ton of generalizable skills that transferred to ops and meant I could skill up a lot faster there. Possibly it helps that I picked nursing for reasons unrelated to its prestige, and in fact got a bunch of flak from people (including people in the rationalist community) about choosing this field.
Aside: the experience I’ve had that feels the most to my S1 like having “made it in life”, is participating in glowfic, a very niche online collaborative-rp-writing community. Writing fiction and having a couple of dozen people as avid fans of it is utterly maxing out my monkey brain’s metric for feeling high-status. I do think it’ll be a bit of an adjustment going back to full-time work of one sort or another (I’ve been doing a lot of this as a hobby while recovering from a serious medical issue, but will at some point be recovered enough to be productive on other things and will cut back substantially.) Possibly because it’s so niche and only involves a subset of my social circle, though, I don’t expect it to make learning different new skills feel like “losing.”
Hmm, it seems maybe relevant that I don’t think of my various skill-acquiring periods in the past as about “success”? Or maybe that the thing my brain parses internally as success isn’t very defined by what society considers to be winning. When I moved from ICU nursing to operations work, it did involve going from somewhere I was acknowledged by my colleagues to be pretty good at and where I felt a lot of mastery, to somewhere where I was much more often making mistakes and getting criticism for them, and this was sometimes frustrating and hard. Still, my overall sense was still one where learning to be a good nurse gave me a ton of generalizable skills that transferred to ops and meant I could skill up a lot faster there. Possibly it helps that I picked nursing for reasons unrelated to its prestige, and in fact got a bunch of flak from people (including people in the rationalist community) about choosing this field.
Aside: the experience I’ve had that feels the most to my S1 like having “made it in life”, is participating in glowfic, a very niche online collaborative-rp-writing community. Writing fiction and having a couple of dozen people as avid fans of it is utterly maxing out my monkey brain’s metric for feeling high-status. I do think it’ll be a bit of an adjustment going back to full-time work of one sort or another (I’ve been doing a lot of this as a hobby while recovering from a serious medical issue, but will at some point be recovered enough to be productive on other things and will cut back substantially.) Possibly because it’s so niche and only involves a subset of my social circle, though, I don’t expect it to make learning different new skills feel like “losing.”