Very fair points. I don’t believe there exists a “universal” definition of status-ness that I can link you to. I view status and prestige as being shaped by social norms that have evolved over millennia, and norms differ across cultures. However, ‘hogging the mic’ is widely seen as ‘rude’ in many human societies. I argue that nitpicking and intentionally missing the point of your interlocutor is also ‘rude’.
I didn’t go much into diagnosis and problem-solving in this post because that’s outside my scope. Being a person is really complicated, so I don’t want to make sweeping statements about why some people exhibit good conversational skills while others don’t.
Having sincere friends who seldomly hold back on pointing out your mistakes helps. In your case, you mention the root cause was emotional distress. In that circumstance, maybe meditation or other mind relaxing activities could help. Again, this is outside my scope.
It could be an interesting exercise to speculate about what value the dominant social norms around conversational etiquette serve. Why is ‘hogging the mic’ considered ‘rude’? On the one hand, when someone hogs the mic, they reveal information that might help us in future decision-making (assuming they are not strategically lying). On the other hand, when someone hogs the mic, they are depriving us of the opportunity to show others what we know and thus depriving us of the opportunity to make new allies. When someone invites others to speak, I guess it signals that they are confident in what they know and don’t feel a pressing need to take centre-stage at every opportunity.
Very fair points. I don’t believe there exists a “universal” definition of status-ness that I can link you to. I view status and prestige as being shaped by social norms that have evolved over millennia, and norms differ across cultures. However, ‘hogging the mic’ is widely seen as ‘rude’ in many human societies. I argue that nitpicking and intentionally missing the point of your interlocutor is also ‘rude’.
I didn’t go much into diagnosis and problem-solving in this post because that’s outside my scope. Being a person is really complicated, so I don’t want to make sweeping statements about why some people exhibit good conversational skills while others don’t.
Having sincere friends who seldomly hold back on pointing out your mistakes helps. In your case, you mention the root cause was emotional distress. In that circumstance, maybe meditation or other mind relaxing activities could help. Again, this is outside my scope.
It could be an interesting exercise to speculate about what value the dominant social norms around conversational etiquette serve. Why is ‘hogging the mic’ considered ‘rude’? On the one hand, when someone hogs the mic, they reveal information that might help us in future decision-making (assuming they are not strategically lying). On the other hand, when someone hogs the mic, they are depriving us of the opportunity to show others what we know and thus depriving us of the opportunity to make new allies. When someone invites others to speak, I guess it signals that they are confident in what they know and don’t feel a pressing need to take centre-stage at every opportunity.