2b. Positive hypocrisy. Speak and act like the person you wish you were, in hopes that you’ll come to be them. (Apparently this works.)
This does work. I found that when I noticed I was quiet and didn’t talk to people often, that I didn’t like being that way. I wanted to reach out. It took four years to break the habit, but now my friends know me to be a generally “out spoken and outgoing” person. In other words, I had an image of what I wanted to be (more outgoing) and thought of what would an outgoing person do (talk to the person sitting next to me in class, get involved in a club, etc) and tried to slowly integrate those things into my life. I think the main point though, is that a person has to honestly want that image of themselves to become an actuality, otherwise the efforts end up falling short.
This was a very interesting post. I’m glad I saw it- it explains behaviors I have exhibited, and the behaviors of friends etc… I will definitely try to be more aware of this.
This does work. I found that when I noticed I was quiet and didn’t talk to people often, that I didn’t like being that way. I wanted to reach out. It took four years to break the habit, but now my friends know me to be a generally “out spoken and outgoing” person. In other words, I had an image of what I wanted to be (more outgoing) and thought of what would an outgoing person do (talk to the person sitting next to me in class, get involved in a club, etc) and tried to slowly integrate those things into my life. I think the main point though, is that a person has to honestly want that image of themselves to become an actuality, otherwise the efforts end up falling short.
This was a very interesting post. I’m glad I saw it- it explains behaviors I have exhibited, and the behaviors of friends etc… I will definitely try to be more aware of this.