To put it cynically, the right time to consider going poly is when you have at least two available potential sexual partners at the same time. Not when the actual number is zero.
I disagree with this. If you want to go poly, you need to look for lovers who also want to (or at least agree to) be poly. “Opening” a pre-existing monogamous relationship is much more fraught and often goes poorly even when the other side agrees. Waiting until you can ask out two people at the same time also makes little sense, because it requires too many stars aligning.
Ofc going poly reduces your dating pool by a lot. But, in the large N limit it doesn’t matter because your competition is also proportionally smaller. I say “in the large N limit” because if you live in some backwater which hardly has anyone poly at all, it can matter. Even if it will make finding a lover harder, it might still be worth it: only you know how important it is for you.
Myself, I went poly around 5 years ago and never looked back. Mono is just not for me.
I disagree with this. If you want to go poly, you need to look for lovers who also want to (or at least agree to) be poly. “Opening” a pre-existing monogamous relationship is much more fraught and often goes poorly even when the other side agrees. Waiting until you can ask out two people at the same time also makes little sense, because it requires too many stars aligning.
Ofc going poly reduces your dating pool by a lot. But, in the large N limit it doesn’t matter because your competition is also proportionally smaller. I say “in the large N limit” because if you live in some backwater which hardly has anyone poly at all, it can matter. Even if it will make finding a lover harder, it might still be worth it: only you know how important it is for you.
Myself, I went poly around 5 years ago and never looked back. Mono is just not for me.