Inversely, if I’m critical of others, I really feel badly when I fail (whether or not it’s evident to others that I failed).
This happens to me too-I think it’s based on the “setting yourself up as an expert” effect-you’re giving off the impression that if you know enough to criticize someone about X, you must be good at X, and then you’re showing everyone that actually you aren’t, meaning the advice you gave is useless.
That being said, I know that I’m sometimes better at teaching skills than doing them. If I’m watching someone else in my taekwondo class do a move that I have a lot of trouble with (example: spin hook kick), I can usually still tell what they’re doing wrong. I can see their whole body as they move, whereas they can’t, and often I know what I’m doing wrong, too...I just don’t have perfect enough control of my muscles to fix it. (This goes for first aid, too. I can watch a kid in one of my classes going through a first aid scenario and know exactly what they’re forgetting, but put me in the exact same scenario and I might well forget it, too. Adrenaline does the weirdest things to my brain.)
This happens to me too-I think it’s based on the “setting yourself up as an expert” effect-you’re giving off the impression that if you know enough to criticize someone about X, you must be good at X, and then you’re showing everyone that actually you aren’t, meaning the advice you gave is useless.
That being said, I know that I’m sometimes better at teaching skills than doing them. If I’m watching someone else in my taekwondo class do a move that I have a lot of trouble with (example: spin hook kick), I can usually still tell what they’re doing wrong. I can see their whole body as they move, whereas they can’t, and often I know what I’m doing wrong, too...I just don’t have perfect enough control of my muscles to fix it. (This goes for first aid, too. I can watch a kid in one of my classes going through a first aid scenario and know exactly what they’re forgetting, but put me in the exact same scenario and I might well forget it, too. Adrenaline does the weirdest things to my brain.)