Really appreciate you pulling this together Ruby. Amazing work.Two resources I’ve found useful or interesting that weren’t on the above list:
Emotion-focused therapy has huge effect sizes for increasing martial satisfaction (suspiciously huge). Even if you account for publication/other biases I’d still wager it’s one of the best rehabilitate and preventative interventions for couples (but it basically just pools lots of what you’ve discussed, like turning toward hard conversations and non-violent communication). This is the best book summarising it: https://www.amazon.com.au/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1491513810
My PhD student did a systematic review of randomised experiments to help people make relationship decisions (e.g., stay or go? if that link is still being minted, see here). Basically, there’s nothing, except for helping decide whether to leave an abusive partner. But, the one study on non-abusive couples was interesting: if you flip a coin and do what the coin says, you’re much more likely to be happy six months later. The most obvious explanation here is status quo bias: people are afraid of leaving but are happier once they do. If you’re thinking hard about leaving, such that you’d be willing to do what a coin says, then probably just go. If you’re not quite ready, I found the idea of setting tripwires (see Ch.11 summary here) helpful to make it clear what I want to see change without constantly shifting the goalposts on myself (e.g., if x doesn’t happen in 3 months, I’m out).
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Really appreciate you pulling this together Ruby. Amazing work.
Two resources I’ve found useful or interesting that weren’t on the above list:
Emotion-focused therapy has huge effect sizes for increasing martial satisfaction (suspiciously huge). Even if you account for publication/other biases I’d still wager it’s one of the best rehabilitate and preventative interventions for couples (but it basically just pools lots of what you’ve discussed, like turning toward hard conversations and non-violent communication). This is the best book summarising it: https://www.amazon.com.au/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1491513810
My PhD student did a systematic review of randomised experiments to help people make relationship decisions (e.g., stay or go? if that link is still being minted, see here). Basically, there’s nothing, except for helping decide whether to leave an abusive partner. But, the one study on non-abusive couples was interesting: if you flip a coin and do what the coin says, you’re much more likely to be happy six months later. The most obvious explanation here is status quo bias: people are afraid of leaving but are happier once they do. If you’re thinking hard about leaving, such that you’d be willing to do what a coin says, then probably just go. If you’re not quite ready, I found the idea of setting tripwires (see Ch.11 summary here) helpful to make it clear what I want to see change without constantly shifting the goalposts on myself (e.g., if x doesn’t happen in 3 months, I’m out).
Thanks! Added!