So, in summary, most dating advice isn’t helpful because it’s written by and for people who are already good at that. :o)
I can break this into some tasks I have solutions to.
Task 1: I am a severe agoraphobe. Solution: therapy helps, alcohol seems to help but makes it much worse on the hangover.
Task 2: I lack conversation skills. I want to not lack conversation skills.
2.1: Being myself involves giving non-sequitur after non-sequitur about my model collection. This upsets people! Solution: Join a model collectin’ club and learn to tell model collecting stories instead.
2.2 I am uncomfortable talking with anyone at all ever. Solution: Therapy helps, alcohol seems to help but makes it much worse on the hangover. It helps me to remember that most people are too self centered to notice when I do something wrong.
2.3 I find members of the opposite gender to be alien and don’t know how to talk with them! Solution: Talk with some about things you have in common? If there is a local [s]gay club[/s] GLBTQQI & Allies support/activism group, you could join it to meet people who will be less threatening due to being out of reach for reasons that aren’t personal. It also means observing first hand that the barrier you thought was between males and females is in fact between most any two people who didn’t choose the same career.: o)
If I knew more, I’d post it.
Edit: If you know more, please post it.
So, in summary, most dating advice isn’t helpful because it’s written by and for people who are already good at that. :o)
I can break this into some tasks I have solutions to.
Task 1: I am a severe agoraphobe. Solution: therapy helps, alcohol seems to help but makes it much worse on the hangover.
Task 2: I lack conversation skills. I want to not lack conversation skills.
2.1: Being myself involves giving non-sequitur after non-sequitur about my model collection. This upsets people! Solution: Join a model collectin’ club and learn to tell model collecting stories instead.
2.2 I am uncomfortable talking with anyone at all ever. Solution: Therapy helps, alcohol seems to help but makes it much worse on the hangover. It helps me to remember that most people are too self centered to notice when I do something wrong.
2.3 I find members of the opposite gender to be alien and don’t know how to talk with them! Solution: Talk with some about things you have in common? If there is a local [s]gay club[/s] GLBTQQI & Allies support/activism group, you could join it to meet people who will be less threatening due to being out of reach for reasons that aren’t personal. It also means observing first hand that the barrier you thought was between males and females is in fact between most any two people who didn’t choose the same career.: o)
If I knew more, I’d post it. Edit: If you know more, please post it.