You’re clearly well-intentioned here, but you’re making this sound pretty unapproachable:
Stressors or incentives disappearing: large-scale material changes in life circumstances are largely out of reach for most people in most situations, not livable as “yeah, I could do this” hypotheticals
Supportive, loving relationships for years: same as above
Successful 1:1 work: what does that look like? Does one need to be resourced in particular ways to access this? Re the latter, absolutely: 1:1 work is expensive, and more importantly excellent psychologists/body workers/meditation teachers/etc are difficult to find, largely coming via word-of-mouth (ie social capital)
Getting lucky with psychedelics on one of their first trips (?): well, luck by definition there
Not to say that these aren’t legitimate, just that they’re difficult to access, and constructing/finding contexts in which they’re more likely to be available/happen isn’t easy for someone “coming from the outside”. In particular, they’re all sort of point intervention-ey, deus-ex-machina-ey, a boolean where either the thing is there/happens, or isn’t/doesn’t.
But embodiment can and should be cultivated, in my (and many people I know’s) experience is always the result of intentional long-term engagement with a shifting set of practices. These pay in the short-term too though, often with low-hanging fruit that powerfully motivates individuals (making long-term viable and natural).
Some examples:
psychoemotional work: focusing, shadow work, IFS and parts work generally, IPF, somatic experiencing
meditation: shamatha to soften stuff, vipassana/emptiness to deconstruct stuff, jhana to cultivate intrinsic good stuff, metta to cultivate extrinsic good stuff, body scanning to directly feel the body
physical practices: yoga, (ecstatic) dance, qui gong, tai chi, TRE
social practices: circling, authentic relating, participating in sangha, men’s/women’s groups
The list goes on; these are just the ones that I’ve engaged personally. The point is that there are options. A lot of them. And they’re approachable, many of them available right now to anybody
The folks I’ve seen go through arcs of development that led to (amongst other things) embodied emotions went through idiosyncratic paths involving these and related practices with varying levels of depth and commitment. Typically for years. But, and the key bit, the pursuit was quickly and then permanently a virtuous cycle, self-motivating: what works and what’ll work next became, after not too long, a creative exploration, guided by curiosity, intuition, and noticing what works. Like improv jazz with/on one’s own mindbody.
You’re clearly well-intentioned here, but you’re making this sound pretty unapproachable:
Stressors or incentives disappearing: large-scale material changes in life circumstances are largely out of reach for most people in most situations, not livable as “yeah, I could do this” hypotheticals
Supportive, loving relationships for years: same as above
Successful 1:1 work: what does that look like? Does one need to be resourced in particular ways to access this? Re the latter, absolutely: 1:1 work is expensive, and more importantly excellent psychologists/body workers/meditation teachers/etc are difficult to find, largely coming via word-of-mouth (ie social capital)
Getting lucky with psychedelics on one of their first trips (?): well, luck by definition there
Not to say that these aren’t legitimate, just that they’re difficult to access, and constructing/finding contexts in which they’re more likely to be available/happen isn’t easy for someone “coming from the outside”. In particular, they’re all sort of point intervention-ey, deus-ex-machina-ey, a boolean where either the thing is there/happens, or isn’t/doesn’t.
But embodiment can and should be cultivated, in my (and many people I know’s) experience is always the result of intentional long-term engagement with a shifting set of practices. These pay in the short-term too though, often with low-hanging fruit that powerfully motivates individuals (making long-term viable and natural).
Some examples:
psychoemotional work: focusing, shadow work, IFS and parts work generally, IPF, somatic experiencing
meditation: shamatha to soften stuff, vipassana/emptiness to deconstruct stuff, jhana to cultivate intrinsic good stuff, metta to cultivate extrinsic good stuff, body scanning to directly feel the body
physical practices: yoga, (ecstatic) dance, qui gong, tai chi, TRE
social practices: circling, authentic relating, participating in sangha, men’s/women’s groups
The list goes on; these are just the ones that I’ve engaged personally. The point is that there are options. A lot of them. And they’re approachable, many of them available right now to anybody
The folks I’ve seen go through arcs of development that led to (amongst other things) embodied emotions went through idiosyncratic paths involving these and related practices with varying levels of depth and commitment. Typically for years. But, and the key bit, the pursuit was quickly and then permanently a virtuous cycle, self-motivating: what works and what’ll work next became, after not too long, a creative exploration, guided by curiosity, intuition, and noticing what works. Like improv jazz with/on one’s own mindbody.