However, one difference is that in the rape example, some people in the audience are more likely to see themselves in the role of the rapist (“Is he saying that I should be allowed to get away with that, if it really caused no harm?”) whereas others are more likely to see themselves in the role of the rape victim (“Is he saying that someone should be allowed to do that to me, if they can explain away my objections?”).
Yes, a little bit.
However, one difference is that in the rape example, some people in the audience are more likely to see themselves in the role of the rapist (“Is he saying that I should be allowed to get away with that, if it really caused no harm?”) whereas others are more likely to see themselves in the role of the rape victim (“Is he saying that someone should be allowed to do that to me, if they can explain away my objections?”).