I’m unsure this is the right decision for me, given that I don’t particularly enjoy partying or drinking. Why did you join a frat? What did you get out of it?
On this note: did your social skills improve after joining?
… And, more generally, how should one pursue the development of social skills? How much time should one put into it, vs. into coding, studying, etc.? Based on what I’ve read, being friendly and someone people can get along with and want to spend time with can work wonders in all sorts of circumstances. Relative to my peers, I’ve put less time into meeting and hanging out with people, and I think I’m less socially adept.
This is something I’d love to get better at.* Any suggestions?
*That, and finding people with whom I’m compatible. I frequently run into people I don’t want to spend time with, but rarely do I meet people whose presence electrifies me.
I don’t know. I mean, how can you measure your own social skills? You might think you have a bunch of friends, but what if they are just laughing behind your back? No way to know. I don’t think my social skills particularly improved during my time at Psi U, but they were fine going in.
I’ve got nothing on how one should pursue the development of social skills. Maybe make it a practice to meet a new peer group every couple of months? Part time jobs are great for this. I don’t know, seems like there’s got to be information on how to be a people person out there, self help books and such. It feels like a common problem.
If he thinks that his workload will ramp up, now isn’t a great time to join, because he’ll have to spend a semester going through the pledge process.
I do highly recommend fraternities otherwise though—they’re a great network and place to meet friends, a good place to practice and develop social skills when interacting with the rest of the Greek system, have a lot of people focused on self-improvement, and they often take care of a lot of the overhead in college (by providing meals, laundry machines, a gym).
This being a good decision is of course contingent upon you actually liking the people in the fraternity as well as the particular attitude of the house in general. And if you’re not into the party scene or nights out on the town, it may not be a good cultural fit.
Could you join a fraternity? Best decision I made while in college.
I’m unsure this is the right decision for me, given that I don’t particularly enjoy partying or drinking. Why did you join a frat? What did you get out of it?
Also the German name suggests European location which means that fraternities are pretty much dead around here.
The rent is extremely low, and the connections that I made there were valuable. I got my first job from a brother.
On this note: did your social skills improve after joining?
… And, more generally, how should one pursue the development of social skills? How much time should one put into it, vs. into coding, studying, etc.? Based on what I’ve read, being friendly and someone people can get along with and want to spend time with can work wonders in all sorts of circumstances. Relative to my peers, I’ve put less time into meeting and hanging out with people, and I think I’m less socially adept.
This is something I’d love to get better at.* Any suggestions?
*That, and finding people with whom I’m compatible. I frequently run into people I don’t want to spend time with, but rarely do I meet people whose presence electrifies me.
It’s literally practice. Practice basic social skills like telling stories, listening, and relating, and practice getting into a social state.
I don’t know. I mean, how can you measure your own social skills? You might think you have a bunch of friends, but what if they are just laughing behind your back? No way to know. I don’t think my social skills particularly improved during my time at Psi U, but they were fine going in.
I’ve got nothing on how one should pursue the development of social skills. Maybe make it a practice to meet a new peer group every couple of months? Part time jobs are great for this. I don’t know, seems like there’s got to be information on how to be a people person out there, self help books and such. It feels like a common problem.
If he thinks that his workload will ramp up, now isn’t a great time to join, because he’ll have to spend a semester going through the pledge process.
I do highly recommend fraternities otherwise though—they’re a great network and place to meet friends, a good place to practice and develop social skills when interacting with the rest of the Greek system, have a lot of people focused on self-improvement, and they often take care of a lot of the overhead in college (by providing meals, laundry machines, a gym).
This being a good decision is of course contingent upon you actually liking the people in the fraternity as well as the particular attitude of the house in general. And if you’re not into the party scene or nights out on the town, it may not be a good cultural fit.