I’ve always been told something along the lines of “find a group based around a hobby that you like/ an interest that you have, and make friends through them,” though I’ve been recently wondering if it’s possible to guess in advance which groups might be more likely to contain the most potential close friends.
Personally, I’ve had an easier time making friends with bronies and HPMoR readers in meatspace than I have had with making friends with people participating in, say, service organizations or chemistry club. The most obvious explanation here is that I have more in common with people in the first two of these groups than I do with people in the last two of these groups. Still, I’m nevertheless tempted to posit something about the fact that signaling membership as an HPMoR reader, or as a brony, is reasonably costly to some people—and that this might serve to filter out a portion of the would-be members of these groups who I’d be less likely to be friends with.
Another possibility: the first group of people have more free time than the latter and spending some free time together is quite important for building friendships.
I’ve always been told something along the lines of “find a group based around a hobby that you like/ an interest that you have, and make friends through them,” though I’ve been recently wondering if it’s possible to guess in advance which groups might be more likely to contain the most potential close friends.
Personally, I’ve had an easier time making friends with bronies and HPMoR readers in meatspace than I have had with making friends with people participating in, say, service organizations or chemistry club. The most obvious explanation here is that I have more in common with people in the first two of these groups than I do with people in the last two of these groups. Still, I’m nevertheless tempted to posit something about the fact that signaling membership as an HPMoR reader, or as a brony, is reasonably costly to some people—and that this might serve to filter out a portion of the would-be members of these groups who I’d be less likely to be friends with.
Another possibility: the first group of people have more free time than the latter and spending some free time together is quite important for building friendships.