This is really good advice, and it took me too long to realize. I didn’t realize it until last summer. I’d had an internalized “if a man asks a woman out and she isn’t interested, she will resent him and think he was creepy”, which… doesn’t actually make sense, if the man is courteous. I asked out several people—no plausible deniability, just: “do you want to go on a date next Saturday?”.
Nothing bad happened when I was told “no thanks”, and a few of them even said yes.
This is really good advice, and it took me too long to realize. I didn’t realize it until last summer. I’d had an internalized “if a man asks a woman out and she isn’t interested, she will resent him and think he was creepy”, which… doesn’t actually make sense, if the man is courteous. I asked out several people—no plausible deniability, just: “do you want to go on a date next Saturday?”.
Nothing bad happened when I was told “no thanks”, and a few of them even said yes.