I’d observe in turn that you seem to have identified very closely with Snape’s suffering,
It happens I don’t. I’ve never been ‘friendzoned,’ never hidden my courtship attempts behind friendship, and never lost a friend due to what seemed to me to be a single event. I have little sympathy for young Snape.
Teenagers aren’t well-equipped to build lasting bonds and relationships. Their poorly-controlled emotional outbursts and social anxieties are more likely to lead to defensively cutting contact than building bridges. They break apart easily enough on their own, even if they are, for a time, inclined to each other’s company.
Without regard to the degree of the hurt—and teenagers do react in an exaggerated fashion to minor injuries of ego, don’t they? -- people do get in arguments where they never mention the thing that upset them enough to get in an argument. I think that is what the author means us to understand took place between Snape and Lily.
It happens I don’t. I’ve never been ‘friendzoned,’ never hidden my courtship attempts behind friendship, and never lost a friend due to what seemed to me to be a single event. I have little sympathy for young Snape.
Teenagers aren’t well-equipped to build lasting bonds and relationships. Their poorly-controlled emotional outbursts and social anxieties are more likely to lead to defensively cutting contact than building bridges. They break apart easily enough on their own, even if they are, for a time, inclined to each other’s company.
Without regard to the degree of the hurt—and teenagers do react in an exaggerated fashion to minor injuries of ego, don’t they? -- people do get in arguments where they never mention the thing that upset them enough to get in an argument. I think that is what the author means us to understand took place between Snape and Lily.