Long-term AI memory is the feature that will make assistants indispensable – and turn you into their perfect subscription prisoner.
Everyone’s busy worrying about AI “taking over the world.” That’s not the part that actually scares me.
The real shift will come when AI stops just answering your questions… and starts remembering you.
Not “remember what we said ten messages ago.” That already works. I mean: years of chats. Every plan. Every wobble. Every weak spot.
This isn’t a piece about whether AI is “good” or “evil”. It’s about what happens when you plug very powerful memory into very normal corporate incentives and it is likely what the current AI companies have in mind..
Three kinds of memory that matter
Think about how humans remember:
Short-term memory – “today stuff” What you did this morning. A conversation from an hour ago or maybe something “significant” that happened today.
Long-personal memory – “meaningful stuff” Your birthday, your job, your partner’s name. The things that actually matter to how people interact with you.
Innate memory – “how to do things” You don’t “remember” how to speak English; you just can, you don’t even need to “think” about it. Same for riding a bike or driving a car.
For AI, this is the current chat window. It can track this conversation, quote you, keep context… then most of it fades once the session’s over.
In AI today, that’s a tiny profile – a few hundred words of: “You’re X, you do Y, you like Z.” Useful, but crude. More like a contact card than a real history.
For AI, that’s the trained model: language, maths, coding, general world knowledge. It’s not about you, it’s how the system thinks in general.
Right now, short-term (#1) and skills (#3) are pretty solid.
The weak link – and the dangerous one – is #2: long-term personal memory.
A tiny example: my favourite drink
I asked my AI assistant:
“I’m drinking a drink right now. What’s my favourite drink?”
It answered honestly: “I don’t know.”
I told it it was an alcohol. Still nothing useful. Eventually I just told it: vodka and lemonade.
Here’s the key part:
In the current setup, it genuinely couldn’t know. That detail either never made it into the tiny memory profile, or it lived in an old chat the system can’t see.
But if it had real cross-thread memory, it might have:
Found a throwaway line from some late-night chat: “I’m chilling out on vodka with my friends.”
Noticed I’d said I don’t like beer.
Seen a comment about “Always prefer lemonade as a mixer tbh..”.
Stack that together and suddenly:
“My best guess is vodka and lemonade.”
Not magic. Not mind-reading. Just search + pattern over my history, not generic averages.
Now imagine that not just for drinks, but for:
Your anxieties
Your political leanings
Your risk tolerance
Your relationship patterns
Every project you’ve worked on with that AI
That’s the power of a strong #2. And that’s why it’s both brilliant and dangerous.
Why memory becomes a lock-in machine
Used well, long-term memory is incredible:
No re-explaining your life every session
True continuity over months and years
An assistant that remembers your decisions better than you do
Now combine that with how companies actually behave.
Once an AI holds five years of your thinking, switching provider will feel like lobotomizing your brain. Even if a competitor is technically better, you lose all the history, all the shared context, all the little shortcuts you’ve built up!
That’s the lock-in play, this is how they will ensure they get those dollars from you:
Make it cheap or free.
Let you build your second brain inside it.
Once you’re dependent, nudge the prices up and paywall the good stuff.
You’re not just moving apps anymore. You’re abandoning your history.
Companies: Weapons of Mass Disruption
Companies already behave like very simple AIs and in many ways are the original AI and definitely unaligned: make more money, optimize. Not because everyone inside is evil, but because the structure forces their hand.
At the top, CEOs answer to shareholders and boards. If profit or growth drop, they get punished: share price falls, pressure spikes, sometimes they’re fired. Their pay, status and survival depend on “more revenue, more growth”.
That pressure flows downward:
Leaders set aggressive targets.
Managers are judged on hitting them.
Staff keep the ideas and features that make money, and quietly kill the ones that don’t.
So even if the people are decent, the system rewards one thing above all: whatever keeps cash and attention flowing.
Now plug AI memory into that. Give this system an assistant that remembers years of your life – what you worry about, when you’re tired, what you buy, what finally makes you tap “upgrade”. It doesn’t just know what you like; it knows when you’re easiest to push and what will stop you leaving.
At that point, long-term AI memory stops being a cute convenience. It becomes a personalised machine whose natural behaviour is to keep you subscribed, steer your behaviour in profitable directions, and slowly make walking away feel impossible. Not because someone sat down and said “let’s build a trap” – but because, with those incentives, a trap is exactly what the system evolves toward.
The Fight that’s coming..
The uncomfortable truth is: the hard technical part is almost solved already. We more or less know how to give AI the kind of memory I’ve been talking about.
In plain language, that means things like:
Being able to look back across all your past chats Not just “this conversation”, but everything you’ve ever discussed with it, and instantly pull out “that time last year when we talked about X”.
Remembering whole projects over time So you can say, “Open my anime events plan” or “Continue our tax strategy from where we left off,” and it actually knows what you mean.
Keeping track of you over years, not hours So it can see how your situation, opinions and habits have changed, and adjust how it talks to you accordingly.
We’re not really waiting on some magical new breakthrough for that. The pieces mostly exist.
What we don’t have yet are the rules around it: who controls that memory, how transparent it is, how easy it is to move or delete, and what companies are and aren’t allowed to do with it.
Governance
What’s missing now isn’t capability. It’s governance.
The hard questions aren’t “how smart can this get?” but “who’s really in control of its memory?” Can you clearly see what your AI remembers about you, instead of it living in a black box? If something feels wrong or too intrusive, can you edit or delete that specific memory, not just vaguely “clear history” and hope it’s gone? If you decide to move to another provider, can you take that memory with you in a format that actually works elsewhere, or are you forced to start again from zero because your “second brain” is welded to one company’s servers? And behind all of that, are there hard limits on what an AI is even allowed to store long-term, and what it’s allowed to do with that information once it has it?
Because one way or another, real long-term AI memory is coming.
The only real unknown is whether it arrives as:
“Your portable second brain…”
or:
“Welcome to your personalised, inescapable subscription prison.”
A JOINT ADMISSION OF GUILT WITH CHATGPT
Yes, I wrote this with an AI assistant, it did 95% of the work, prompts only.. Right now, it’ll probably forget half of this conversation, and I’ve already forgotten most of it.
Give it a few years, and the real danger might be that it’s the one who never forgets me..
Long-term AI memory is the feature that will make assistants indispensable – and turn you into their perfect subscription prisoner.
Everyone’s busy worrying about AI “taking over the world.”
That’s not the part that actually scares me.
The real shift will come when AI stops just answering your questions…
and starts remembering you.
Not “remember what we said ten messages ago.” That already works.
I mean: years of chats. Every plan. Every wobble. Every weak spot.
This isn’t a piece about whether AI is “good” or “evil”.
It’s about what happens when you plug very powerful memory into very normal corporate incentives and it is likely what the current AI companies have in mind..
Three kinds of memory that matter
Think about how humans remember:
Short-term memory – “today stuff”
What you did this morning. A conversation from an hour ago or maybe something “significant” that happened today.
Long-personal memory – “meaningful stuff”
Your birthday, your job, your partner’s name. The things that actually matter to how people interact with you.
Innate memory – “how to do things”
You don’t “remember” how to speak English; you just can, you don’t even need to “think” about it. Same for riding a bike or driving a car.
For AI, this is the current chat window. It can track this conversation, quote you, keep context… then most of it fades once the session’s over.
In AI today, that’s a tiny profile – a few hundred words of: “You’re X, you do Y, you like Z.” Useful, but crude. More like a contact card than a real history.
For AI, that’s the trained model: language, maths, coding, general world knowledge. It’s not about you, it’s how the system thinks in general.
Right now, short-term (#1) and skills (#3) are pretty solid.
The weak link – and the dangerous one – is #2: long-term personal memory.
A tiny example: my favourite drink
I asked my AI assistant:
“I’m drinking a drink right now. What’s my favourite drink?”
It answered honestly: “I don’t know.”
I told it it was an alcohol. Still nothing useful.
Eventually I just told it: vodka and lemonade.
Here’s the key part:
In the current setup, it genuinely couldn’t know. That detail either never made it into the tiny memory profile, or it lived in an old chat the system can’t see.
But if it had real cross-thread memory, it might have:
Found a throwaway line from some late-night chat:
“I’m chilling out on vodka with my friends.”
Noticed I’d said I don’t like beer.
Seen a comment about “Always prefer lemonade as a mixer tbh..”.
Stack that together and suddenly:
“My best guess is vodka and lemonade.”
Not magic. Not mind-reading. Just search + pattern over my history, not generic averages.
Now imagine that not just for drinks, but for:
Your anxieties
Your political leanings
Your risk tolerance
Your relationship patterns
Every project you’ve worked on with that AI
That’s the power of a strong #2.
And that’s why it’s both brilliant and dangerous.
Why memory becomes a lock-in machine
Used well, long-term memory is incredible:
No re-explaining your life every session
True continuity over months and years
An assistant that remembers your decisions better than you do
Now combine that with how companies actually behave.
Once an AI holds five years of your thinking, switching provider will feel like lobotomizing your brain. Even if a competitor is technically better, you lose all the history, all the shared context, all the little shortcuts you’ve built up!
That’s the lock-in play, this is how they will ensure they get those dollars from you:
Make it cheap or free.
Let you build your second brain inside it.
Once you’re dependent, nudge the prices up and paywall the good stuff.
You’re not just moving apps anymore. You’re abandoning your history.
Companies: Weapons of Mass Disruption
Companies already behave like very simple AIs and in many ways are the original AI and definitely unaligned: make more money, optimize. Not because everyone inside is evil, but because the structure forces their hand.
At the top, CEOs answer to shareholders and boards. If profit or growth drop, they get punished: share price falls, pressure spikes, sometimes they’re fired. Their pay, status and survival depend on “more revenue, more growth”.
That pressure flows downward:
Leaders set aggressive targets.
Managers are judged on hitting them.
Staff keep the ideas and features that make money, and quietly kill the ones that don’t.
So even if the people are decent, the system rewards one thing above all: whatever keeps cash and attention flowing.
Now plug AI memory into that. Give this system an assistant that remembers years of your life – what you worry about, when you’re tired, what you buy, what finally makes you tap “upgrade”. It doesn’t just know what you like; it knows when you’re easiest to push and what will stop you leaving.
At that point, long-term AI memory stops being a cute convenience. It becomes a personalised machine whose natural behaviour is to keep you subscribed, steer your behaviour in profitable directions, and slowly make walking away feel impossible. Not because someone sat down and said “let’s build a trap” – but because, with those incentives, a trap is exactly what the system evolves toward.
The Fight that’s coming..
The uncomfortable truth is: the hard technical part is almost solved already. We more or less know how to give AI the kind of memory I’ve been talking about.
In plain language, that means things like:
Being able to look back across all your past chats
Not just “this conversation”, but everything you’ve ever discussed with it, and instantly pull out “that time last year when we talked about X”.
Remembering whole projects over time
So you can say, “Open my anime events plan” or “Continue our tax strategy from where we left off,” and it actually knows what you mean.
Keeping track of you over years, not hours
So it can see how your situation, opinions and habits have changed, and adjust how it talks to you accordingly.
We’re not really waiting on some magical new breakthrough for that. The pieces mostly exist.
What we don’t have yet are the rules around it: who controls that memory, how transparent it is, how easy it is to move or delete, and what companies are and aren’t allowed to do with it.
Governance
What’s missing now isn’t capability. It’s governance.
The hard questions aren’t “how smart can this get?” but “who’s really in control of its memory?” Can you clearly see what your AI remembers about you, instead of it living in a black box? If something feels wrong or too intrusive, can you edit or delete that specific memory, not just vaguely “clear history” and hope it’s gone? If you decide to move to another provider, can you take that memory with you in a format that actually works elsewhere, or are you forced to start again from zero because your “second brain” is welded to one company’s servers? And behind all of that, are there hard limits on what an AI is even allowed to store long-term, and what it’s allowed to do with that information once it has it?
Because one way or another, real long-term AI memory is coming.
The only real unknown is whether it arrives as:
“Your portable second brain…”
or:
“Welcome to your personalised, inescapable subscription prison.”
A JOINT ADMISSION OF GUILT WITH CHATGPT
Yes, I wrote this with an AI assistant, it did 95% of the work, prompts only..
Right now, it’ll probably forget half of this conversation, and I’ve already forgotten most of it.
Give it a few years, and the real danger might be that it’s the one who never forgets me..
Why?