Yes, that was one reason why I changed my supervisor after graduating. Great guy, nothing untoward in his behaviour, but there was just SO MUCH of him...
I think people—even well matched people—can become fatigued of one another given a lot of exposure over time. Like, too much of a good thing...
But there is a separate phenomenon I’ve noticed in dating relationships where you become fond of someone merely from familiarity (even after just a few dates), even if you recognize you don’t share certain core values...or even if there isn’t anything like an overwhelming attraction. And if more familiarity tends to breed more fondness + physical/emotional intimacy, then you can become fairly attached to someone with which a long term relationship won’t work.
Yes, that was one reason why I changed my supervisor after graduating. Great guy, nothing untoward in his behaviour, but there was just SO MUCH of him...
I’m not sure this is the same thing I’m saying.
I think people—even well matched people—can become fatigued of one another given a lot of exposure over time. Like, too much of a good thing...
But there is a separate phenomenon I’ve noticed in dating relationships where you become fond of someone merely from familiarity (even after just a few dates), even if you recognize you don’t share certain core values...or even if there isn’t anything like an overwhelming attraction. And if more familiarity tends to breed more fondness + physical/emotional intimacy, then you can become fairly attached to someone with which a long term relationship won’t work.
Colloquially, this is often called “settling”. :)