Any time you feel the urge to say, “Why can’t you see that X?”, it’s usually not that the other person is being deliberately obtuse—most likely it’s that you haven’t explained it as clearly as you thought you had. This is especially true when dealing with others in a community you are new to or someone new to your community: their expectations and foundations are probably other than you expect.
I really like the last paragraph here.
Any time you feel the urge to say, “Why can’t you see that X?”, it’s usually not that the other person is being deliberately obtuse—most likely it’s that you haven’t explained it as clearly as you thought you had. This is especially true when dealing with others in a community you are new to or someone new to your community: their expectations and foundations are probably other than you expect.