Classes, lectures, trying new food, going on dates… it’s not that these things are ever huge letdowns, I’m just not glad I did them.
One of my biggest problems is making new friends. I try sometimes, despite my better judgment, but the amount of time and effort necessary to forge a friendship worth having, or perhaps to reformat the person in question into someone worth having for a friend, seems astronomical. It feels like I only managed to make the friends I have because when I started I had no friends and it was the only option, the way kids are forced by the world to learn a language.
When you try any of these things, is there something that you hope to accomplish, but don’t? Is there some outcome you can imagine that would be make you glad you did it?
Could you give examples, PlaidX?
Classes, lectures, trying new food, going on dates… it’s not that these things are ever huge letdowns, I’m just not glad I did them.
One of my biggest problems is making new friends. I try sometimes, despite my better judgment, but the amount of time and effort necessary to forge a friendship worth having, or perhaps to reformat the person in question into someone worth having for a friend, seems astronomical. It feels like I only managed to make the friends I have because when I started I had no friends and it was the only option, the way kids are forced by the world to learn a language.
When you try any of these things, is there something that you hope to accomplish, but don’t? Is there some outcome you can imagine that would be make you glad you did it?
Sure. Learning things I couldn’t learn on wikipedia, finding something good to eat, making a meaningful connection with people, enjoying myself, etc.
It’s not some existential angst, I’m just hard to please.
Changing other people is incredibly difficult to do.
Have you tried just casting a wider net, so to speak?
Meaning what?
Going to or doing things with a bunch of people (hopefully related to your interests) o improve the chances of meeting someone you’d like.
Unfortunately, none of my interests seem to involve group activities.
I have difficulty meeting people I like even on the internet, where there’s zillions of them and they can be easily sorted through.