I have some suspicions about the survey that says 2⁄3 of people were friends before partners. Looking at it superficially, they did rely on a particular set of college people. In my own educated circle in HCOL cities, it’s practically unheard of.
The Reddit-tier level advice of “wash your ass, comb your hair” is not so much about actually trying to help men—so much as signal “I’m better than other men”. If you’re physically unattractive, dating apps can’t help you. 90% of this is determined by genetics. You can certainly sandbag an attractive man but you can’t make an ugly man good looking. For apps, even though we list out many attributes like height, job, education, etc. the number one most important feature is your face. If you’ve got an ugly mug, you’re not getting matches. This is the main reason men struggle with apps—most men just are not facially attractive to most women. Recent studies show that women are as superficial as men when it comes to choosing partners.
I have some suspicions about the survey that says 2⁄3 of people were friends before partners. Looking at it superficially, they did rely on a particular set of college people. In my own educated circle in HCOL cities, it’s practically unheard of.
The Reddit-tier level advice of “wash your ass, comb your hair” is not so much about actually trying to help men—so much as signal “I’m better than other men”. If you’re physically unattractive, dating apps can’t help you. 90% of this is determined by genetics. You can certainly sandbag an attractive man but you can’t make an ugly man good looking. For apps, even though we list out many attributes like height, job, education, etc. the number one most important feature is your face. If you’ve got an ugly mug, you’re not getting matches. This is the main reason men struggle with apps—most men just are not facially attractive to most women. Recent studies show that women are as superficial as men when it comes to choosing partners.