when I’ve actually helped someone optimize, I feel like a real badass.
Absolutely.
The point I was making was that dropping some unsolicited advice on someone carries an implication that the answer is obvious to you and the person you’re “helping” is to whatever degree less competent, less informed, or less intelligent. When you get into for-real helping you might well find that this isn’t actually the case.
Moreover, if you don’t see this as a real possibility, you’re almost certainly Doing It Wrong.
Absolutely.
The point I was making was that dropping some unsolicited advice on someone carries an implication that the answer is obvious to you and the person you’re “helping” is to whatever degree less competent, less informed, or less intelligent. When you get into for-real helping you might well find that this isn’t actually the case.
Moreover, if you don’t see this as a real possibility, you’re almost certainly Doing It Wrong.