You can’t avoid situations where confidence matters. In most type of negotiations confidence matters.
And how would a lack of confidence due to not doing martial arts manifest itself?
As far as I can tell, about the only things in life (after high school, at least) I ever wanted that I didn’t get but would have if I had been more confident probably were hookups with drunken bimbos in night clubs (which now that I’m in a relationship is a moot point), and even there being more confident would also have increased the number of times the bouncers threw my ass out of the club.
Looking at how people more confident (IIUC what you mean) than me (controlling for age, intelligence, socio-economic status of parents, and the like) fare in life, I’m under the impression that more confidence would just make me come across as arrogant and make everybody important dislike me. I know people who got into lots of trouble because of that.
Carrying pepper spray into a salary negotiation won’t make you more confident to ask for a raise.
And knowing martial arts doesn’t change the fact that if you demand too much they’ll hire someone cheaper than you. (And in many kinds of jobs the wage is fixed beforehand and they decide whom to hire based on a competitive examination.)
And how would a lack of confidence due to not doing martial arts manifest itself?
As far as I can tell, about the only things in life (after high school, at least) I ever wanted that I didn’t get but would have if I had been more confident probably were hookups with drunken bimbos in night clubs (which now that I’m in a relationship is a moot point), and even there being more confident would also have increased the number of times the bouncers threw my ass out of the club.
Looking at how people more confident (IIUC what you mean) than me (controlling for age, intelligence, socio-economic status of parents, and the like) fare in life, I’m under the impression that more confidence would just make me come across as arrogant and make everybody important dislike me. I know people who got into lots of trouble because of that.
And knowing martial arts doesn’t change the fact that if you demand too much they’ll hire someone cheaper than you. (And in many kinds of jobs the wage is fixed beforehand and they decide whom to hire based on a competitive examination.)