It’s easy to be sympathetic with these two scenarios—I get frustrated with myself, often enough. Would it be helpful to discuss an example of what your thoughts are before a social interaction or in one of the feedback loops? I’m not really sure how I’d be able to help, though… Maybe your thoughts are thoughts like anyone would have: “shoot! I shouldn’t have said it that way, now they’ll think...” but with more extreme emotions. If so, my (naive) suggestion would be something like meditation toward the goal of being able to observe that you are having a certain thought/reaction but not identify with it.
It’s easy to be sympathetic with these two scenarios—I get frustrated with myself, often enough. Would it be helpful to discuss an example of what your thoughts are before a social interaction or in one of the feedback loops? I’m not really sure how I’d be able to help, though… Maybe your thoughts are thoughts like anyone would have: “shoot! I shouldn’t have said it that way, now they’ll think...” but with more extreme emotions. If so, my (naive) suggestion would be something like meditation toward the goal of being able to observe that you are having a certain thought/reaction but not identify with it.