Suggested stance: emotional distance and compassion.
Your stance is focused on things (facts, reality) when it really should be on people (the person, your relationship with them, yourself).
Definitely don’t make any commitments, new payments etc to the person until you’ve figured out how you want to handle it, but other than that the object level is kinda irrelevant.
You should be protecting yourself, and making sure not to instinctively hurt the other person or your relationship with them.
Suggested stance: emotional distance and compassion.
Your stance is focused on things (facts, reality) when it really should be on people (the person, your relationship with them, yourself).
Definitely don’t make any commitments, new payments etc to the person until you’ve figured out how you want to handle it, but other than that the object level is kinda irrelevant.
You should be protecting yourself, and making sure not to instinctively hurt the other person or your relationship with them.